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UNSEXY!

Published about 10 hours ago • 1 min read

Dear Reader,

ETHICS

Do you sometimes find yourself in an ethical dilemma? I do, often.
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Do I take care of me or of you?
Do I tell the person the (helpful) information I know?
Do I get trapped in ethical dilemmas because it was so overwhelming?

How do we teach our kids to hold high ethical standards without spiraling into perfectionism?
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I don't think the answer is ALWAYS BE PERFECT which is the subtle or not so subtle message my brain gives me.
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I think part of the answer is to be AWARE. Do I have to have all the answers or be always perfectly ethical by YOUR (the global your) standards? NOT ME. I have to be thoughtful and conscientious toward both ME and the global you.

I hope you are intrigued and would like to join the conversation.
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Tomorrow, Tuesday October 20th, 10am Pacific, 1pm Eastern:
If you aren't a member, register here. Your office hours registration includes two masterclass recordings this month, including the one on teaching ethics. It's good!

I can say that confidently because I based it on the excellent book, Good Kids Tough Choices, by Rushmore Kidder.
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​I look forward to seeing you tomorrow. If not, be sure to drop by my 10 minute check in on Thursday--Get your Zoom link here.

Blessings and breath,
Alane

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Alane Freund, MS, MA​
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (Lic. #LMFT36077)
​P 415-203-6600 E alane@areyouhighlysensitive.com

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